Challenges faced by introverted individuals
lSmall talk discomfort: Introverts often prefer deep, meaningful conversations over superficial chit-chat. They may find small talk boring or pointless, leading to the perception that they lack interest or enthusiasm in social interactions, which can make it hard for them to connect with others in casual settings.
lLimited social energy: Introverts often recharge by spending time alone or in quieter environments. Socialising can be draining for them, and they may need more downtime to recuperate, limiting the time and energy available for building relationships.
lSelective socialising: Introverts may have a smaller circle of friends but tend to form deeper connections. However, this selectivity in socialising can limit the opportunities to meet new people and expand their social network.
lExpressing emotions can be challenging: Introverts may not always feel comfortable expressing their emotions openly, which can make it difficult for others to understand them. This can lead to misunderstandings and strained relationships.
Besides these main challenges, introverts may experience social anxiety and have a fear of rejection, which can make it difficult for them to initiate or sustain conversations and hinder their willingness to take risks in forming new relationships. Introverts may struggle with assertiveness, which impacts their ability to express their needs and desires clearly. This can make it difficult for them to set boundaries and protect themselves from being taken advantage of.
Impact on their well-being
Navigating social interactions can have both positive and negative effects on one’s well-being. Emotional energy drain in large or unfamiliar social settings, feelings of loneliness or isolation due to challenges in reaching out, heightened stress levels due to social anxiety and fear of judgement, and depression due to prolonged feelings of isolation, loneliness, or inadequacy in social situations are some negative impacts to consider. Overwhelming by social media due to the constant stream of information and addiction to technology due to spending too much time online are also issues to be cautious about for introverted persons in particular.
On the positive side are deep and meaningful connections with a select few individuals, self-acceptance and growth in learning to navigate their social preferences, and mindful socialising that can enhance the well-being of introverted people.
Strategies for mitigating loneliness in
a college or university setting
lChoose quality over quantity: Focus on building a few close relationships rather than trying to maintain a large social circle.
lControl the setting: If going out is not easy, have people come to you. For instance, invite someone to your place for dinner or plan to watch a movie together.
lCommon interest groups: Connect with people who share your interests, as this will provide a natural basis for conversation and shared experiences.
lVolunteer: Look for volunteer opportunities on campus or in your local area, as it can be a great way to meet new people and feel more connected to your community.
lCommunicate openly: Let your friends know your needs and preferences, that you may need more time alone to recharge, and that you prefer deeper conversations over small talk.
lBeing patient: Building relationships takes time and effort; do not get discouraged by initial difficulties.
If you are still feeling lonely or overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional.
How teachers, peers, and parents
can support and help
Introverted students have unique needs and preferences. Teachers, peers, and parents can support them by creating an inclusive learning environment that is conducive to navigating social issues in college life.
lAllow introverted students to take breaks when they feel overwhelmed.
lProvide opportunities for introverted students to work independently.
lOffer a variety of learning activities that cater to different learning styles, which can help introverted students feel more engaged and motivated.
lEncourage introverted students to participate in group activities without forcing them to do so.
lBuilding a one-to-one relationship so that introverted students feel comfortable seeking help when they need it.
Parents play a significant role in helping introverted youth build good self-esteem and confidence by accepting and appreciating their unique individuality rather than comparing and expecting them to be outgoing and social like their extrovert contemporaries.
(The author, Dr. Gitanjali Natarajan, is the Chief Clinical Psychology Advisor at Niyama Digital Healthcare.)
